In Times of Bereavement

In the unfortunate event that a person has passed away, there are three things that must be done in the first few days;

  • Get a medical certificate from your GP or hospital doctor (this is necessary to register the death)
  • Register the death within 5 days (8 days in Scotland). You will then receive the necessary documents for the funeral.
  • Make the necessary funeral arrangements.

Register the death

If the death has been reported to the coroner (or Procurator Fiscal in Scotland) they must give permission before registering the death.

You can register the death if you are a relative, a witness to the death, a hospital administrator or the person making the arrangements with the funeral directors.

You can use the ‘Register a Death’ page on the gov.uk website that will guide you through the process. This will also explain the registration process for Scotland and Northern Ireland.

Arrange the funeral

The funeral can usually only take place after the death is registered. Most people use a funeral director, though you can arrange a funeral yourself.

Funeral directors

Choose a funeral director who’s a member of one of the following:

These organisations have codes of practice – they must give you a price list when asked.

Some local councils run their own funeral services, for example for non-religious burials. The British Humanist Association can also help with non-religious funerals.

Arranging the funeral yourself

Contact the Cemeteries and Crematorium Department of your local council to arrange a funeral yourself.

Funeral costs

Funeral costs can include:

  • funeral director fees
  • things the funeral director pays for on your behalf (called ‘disbursements’ or ‘third-party costs’), for example, crematorium or cemetery fees, or a newspaper announcement about the death
  • local authority burial or cremation fees

Funeral directors may list all these costs in their quotes.

Support for those grieving

Losing someone can feel overwhelming. You do not have to cope alone. Support is available locally in Suffolk and nationally, whether your loss is recent or long ago.

Local Support

Emotional support, counselling, and listening services for adults.
Website: Suffolk Mind – Suffolk’s independent mental health charity
Bereavement support for adults and children, even if the person was not cared for by the hospice.
Website: https://www.stelizabethhospice.org.uk/how-we-help/bereavement-support/
NHS talking therapies for grief, anxiety, and depression (self-referral).
Website: Suffolk InfoLink | Wellbeing Suffolk (NHS Suffolk Talking Therapies provider)
SANDS – Support for parents and families
Website: https://www.sands.org.uk/

Tommy’s – Pregnancy loss and complications
Website: https://www.tommys.org/

Lullaby Trust – Sudden infant death support
Website: https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/
Winston’s Wish – Specialist support for children and families
Website: https://www.winstonswish.org/

Child Bereavement UK – Helplines, groups, and resources
Website: https://www.childbereavementuk.org/
Cruse Bereavement Support – Helpline, counselling, and local groups
Website: https://www.cruse.org.uk/

Sue Ryder – Online and in-person grief support
Website: https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/bereavement-support/

If you or someone you are supporting is struggling to stay safe, immediate help is available: